FAQ

How do I prepare for my first session?

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1. Reflect on Your Concerns: Take some time to think about what specific issues or challenges you're facing in your sexual life. Consider what aspects you'd like to improve or address during therapy.

2. Set Goals: Think about what you hope to achieve through sex therapy. Whether it's improving communication with your partner, addressing performance anxiety, exploring your sexuality, or resolving past traumas, having clear goals can help guide your sessions.

3. Be Open and Honest: Sex therapy relies on open communication between you and your therapist (and partner if they are part of the process). Be prepared to discuss intimate details about your sexual history, desires, and concerns - however at any time you can say 'pass' - your safety in the session is of utmost importance.

4. Write Down Questions: If you have specific questions or topics you want to cover, jot them down beforehand. This can help ensure that you don't forget anything important during your session.

5. Manage Expectations: Understand that progress in therapy takes time and effort. Don't expect instant solutions or quick fixes. Instead, focus on the process of self-discovery and growth.

6. Consider Your Comfort Level: Sex therapy may involve discussing sensitive or uncomfortable topics. Think about what makes you feel most comfortable during these discussions, whether it's speaking openly, using metaphors, or taking breaks when needed. 

7. Stay Open-Minded: Be willing to explore new ideas, perspectives, and techniques. Your therapist may suggest exercises or homework assignments to help you address your concerns. Approach these suggestions with an open mind and a willingness and determination to try new things.

8. Follow Through: Outside of therapy sessions, be proactive about implementing any strategies or techniques discussed with your therapist. Consistency and effort outside of sessions can significantly impact your progress.

9. Trust Your Therapist - Trust Yourself : It is of utmost importance that you feel comfortable with your therapist. They are there to support you without judgment and to guide you through the therapy process. . Having said that feel free to disagree with the therapist at any point - you are the expert of 'you' and it is important that you feel free to speak up during the session to clarify anything. 

10. Self-Care: Lastly, prioritize self-care before and after your sessions. Engage in activities that help you relax and unwind, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate your sexual journey.

 

By taking these steps to prepare for your sex therapy counseling session, you can set yourself up for a productive and transformative experience.

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What does a typical session look like? 

In a typical sex therapy session, you'll begin by establishing rapport with the therapist and discussing your specific concerns and goals in a non-judgmental environment. The therapist may explore various factors contributing to your sexual issues, take a formal sexual history, provide education about sexual anatomy and functioning, and teach you skills and techniques to address your concerns. Homework assignments may be given to practice these skills between sessions. Emotions related to sexuality and relationships are explored, and progress is reviewed at the end of each session. Overall, sex therapy sessions are collaborative, client-centered, and focused on providing support, guidance, and expertise to help you navigate your sexual concerns and achieve your goals.

 

Does sex therapy actually work?

Sex therapy can be highly effective for many individuals and couples. Research has shown that sex therapy can lead to improvements in sexual functioning, satisfaction, and overall well-being. It provides a safe and supportive environment for addressing a wide range of sexual concerns, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low libido, difficulties with arousal or orgasm, sexual pain disorders, communication issues, and relationship conflicts related to sexuality.

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It is important to keep in mind its effectiveness depends on various factors, including the specific concerns being addressed, the therapist's expertise and approach, the client's commitment to therapy, and the quality of the therapeutic relationship. Additionally, sex therapy often involves learning new skills, changing unhelpful beliefs or behaviors, and addressing underlying psychological or relational issues contributing to sexual difficulties.

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While sex therapy may not provide immediate or miraculous solutions, many individuals and couples report significant improvements in their sexual lives and overall relationship satisfaction as a result of therapy. It's essential to approach sex therapy with realistic expectations and a willingness to actively engage in the therapeutic process. 

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Can I claim a Medicare rebate on my session? 

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As of yet, there isn't a specific Medicare rebate for sex therapy (accredited specialist sexologists) in Australia. However, some individuals may be eligible for rebates through seeing a general psychologist (who is additionally trained in sexology) - but locating a therapist like this can be challenging. Some private health insurance policies may also offer coverage for sex therapy or counseling services, so it's worth checking with your insurer to explore your options.

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Is online therapy as good as in-person therapy? 

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Research suggests that telehealth sex therapy can be equally as effective as in-person therapy and that Telehealth interventions can produce positive outcomes comparable to traditional face-to-face therapy. 

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Several factors contribute to the effectiveness of this:

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1. Convenience and Accessibility: Telehealth therapy eliminates barriers related to transportation, mobility, or geographic location, making this service more accessible to a broader population.

2. Comfort and Privacy: Some individuals feel more comfortable discussing sensitive topics or emotions from the privacy of their own homes, which can facilitate greater openness and honesty during therapy sessions.

3. Flexibility: Telehealth therapy offers greater flexibility in scheduling appointments, allowing individuals to fit therapy into their busy lives more easily.

4. Consistency: With telehealth, individuals can maintain regular contact with their therapist, even during times when in-person sessions might not be feasible, such as during travel or inclement weather.

 

However, it's important to note that telehealth therapy may not be equally effective for everyone. Some individuals may prefer or require the interpersonal connection and non-verbal cues available in face-to-face therapy. Additionally, certain therapeutic modalities or interventions may be better suited to in-person sessions and your therapist with be able to guide you on this.

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What if I have to cancel at the last minute? 

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You are welcome to cancel your booking up to 48 hours before the session with no cancellation fee. Otherwise a cancellation fee (full amount) will be charged automatically to your account. This is for the purpose of upholding the integrity of the therapist's time and resources while promoting consistency and commitment to the therapeutic process.

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Are there any good resources I can watch or read in advance before my session? 

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Terry Real 'Fierce Intimacy' Audio Book

Esther Perel 'Where Shall we Begin' podcasts

Foreplay Radio podcasts (Laurie Watson and George Faller)

The place we find ourselves podcasts (Adam Young) 

Come As You Are book (Emily Nagoski)

Hold Me Tight book - (Sue Johnson)

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work book (John M Gottman)

The New Rules of Marriage book (Terry Real)

Facing Codependence (Pia Mellody)

Free courses from the Centre for Healing (Ryan Hassan and Matt Nettleton​